Wednesday, October 08, 2014

The Money Stories We Hold Onto

Working with a money coach will help you release your old stories around money, reframe them and help you define the life you desire.   I am releasing some of my own issues around money which  helps me grow even deeper as a money mentor.  

Yesterday, as I was whipping up a batch of chocolate truffles, my go to activity when feeling a little down,  I noticed the sensations of anger, tightness coming from my throat and chest.   It was the victim archetype that was trying to find expression.  The anger was around some decisions I made back in 2007 to refinance my home which I eventually lost during the recession and I'm still recovering emotionally from this event.  

Family has always been a huge influence in my life and much of the advice I receive from family members has been centered around fear and lack and control.   In 2007, I  made a decision to refinance my home based on my father's fear that interest rates would rise out of control and his urging me to refinance.  I didn't make this decision based on my own research, my own ideas, needs and wants.  It was a decision I made blindly and this decision was one of the contributing factors that eventually led to me losing my home.   I could have easily gone down the path to blame, regret and hopelessness but I am working with my coach to bring more awareness and consciousness into my reactions so I stopped to journal about my feelings.

I can't change the decisions I made in the past and playing out the victim role doesn't serve me now and in the future I want to create.  To transcend and grow through this experience, I need to practice acceptance, awareness and forgiveness.

Accepting the past, the decisions I made and the consequences of those decision.   I cannot change the facts no matter how much I complain, blame and wish things were different.  It is what it is.

Awareness that I must make decisions for myself.  I can hear what others have to say, no matter how convincing they may sound, its still up to me to gather information, know my needs and wants and make the best decision for myself.

Forgiveness toward my father, he is who he is, sometimes a controlling, generous Tyrant archetypes who reacts to fear.  Dad doesn't really know what is best for me, only I do.

Holding anger and resentment only drives a wedge into the important relationships in our lives and diminishes the love.  By working through this with my coach, I am seeing how the Victim archetype keeps me tied to my past and keeps me from moving forward to claim the life I desire.

What about you? What money stories are holding you back from living the life you desire?  Please share your story below and if you want to explore if money coaching is right for you, send me an email for a free 30 minute consultation.   abccpa@sbcglobal.net

Saturday, June 02, 2012

Be Aware of Your Money and Eating Habits

I had an appointment with a health counselor yesterday.  She gave me an assignment to write down everything I eat.  This exercise helps us become accountable and also aware of what we put in our mouth.  Sometimes we eat for emotional reasons and getting in touch with those feelings helps us uncover our unmet emotional needs.  Its the same with money.  Our habits around money are often unconscious and we use money to meet emotional needs.  Try this:  Write down everything you spend everyday for a week, also jot down how you felt about it: Did you feel proud, happy, stressed, fear.  Get in touch with the unconscious feelings you have around money.   Its the first step to developing a positive relationship with money and growing your Money Chi.

Monday, December 21, 2009

Abundance is Real

It always seems to be the case that when one aspect of my life improves, other aspects suffer. In this case, my personal well being has greatly improved since I moved to Boston, while my personal finances have not. I am thankful to Marc and the universe for covering my monthly nut. Wow, am I ever lucky! Writing this just now, I realize what is in fact true. My desire was to be financially free. I am right now. Yes, I need to make money but my essentials are taken care of and I feel secure in a way that I never have before and for this I feel very grateful.

I was focusing on the lack that I am personally not creating, I want to focus on the abundance I have in my life. I want to create immense success, not just surviving as I have been for the past 2 decades. Thank you Marc and the Universe for such abundance in my life in all aspects, love, health, happiness and financial freedom. My energy is free to create wealth and success for myself, Marc and our family and grow our money chi.

Just as I have counseled countless people on the steps to financial success, I will follow them now and witness their power to transform our life. I will help us set up a personal financial/accounting system using Quicken for our personal affairs and Quickbooks for our businesses. Clearing out old files and making new ones and making an office space is one of my first tasks. You need to clear the clutter so you can see where you are starting from. A clear picture will take form and then you can design where you want to go, but you need to first know where you are starting from.

I will chronicle my success here in this blog. Then I will be better equipped to help others achieve the success they are seeking. I know how to survive, now I will learn to thrive!

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Money Types

Knowing your money type can help you recognize behavior patterns around money so you can change them and create a more supportive relationship with your money.

Think of the 8 Money Types as the Major Arcana of money Tarot. Each one represents an architype expressed consciously or unconsciously around money. They Money Types are the Innocent, the Victim, the Warrior, the Martyr, the Fool, the Creator/Artist, the Tyrant and the Magician. As we become aware of these energies and how they play out in our lives we can make peace with them, inviting some to play a larger role in our money life and asking others to stay away, at least until we decide when its time to come out and play.

The Innocent doesn't really want to know what is going on with her money, basically she sticks her head in the sand and pretends nothing is really happening, if she just ignores the problems they will just go away, won't they? Innocents don't like dealing with money because it is usually boring to do so, taking the time to nurture your money takes time away from doing the things she'd really rather be doing, and so the Innocent secretly dreams prince charming will sweep her off her feet and take care of all of life's details so she doesn't have to. But if she continues to ignore the writing on the wall long enough, she is bound to get hurt and the Innocent's very trusting demeanor will often give way to the Victim.

The Victim evades taking responsibility for all her money woes. As long as others are at fault, she will continue to be stuck in self-destructive patterns of blame, loss and hurt. Holding on to her story and being stuck in the past are all hallmarks of the Victim, and she will tell her story of woe to anyone who will listen, often bringing others down with them, in a misery likes company fashion. When the Victim does finally claims her own power and takes responsibility for the results in her life, she will become a powerful source for herself and for others to help them reclaim their own power source around money. That power transforms the Victim into the Warrior type.

The Warrior is confident, goal oriented and driven. She makes intelligent decisions and takes calculated risks with her money. Often, having learned the hard way, the Warrior wants to protect what she values and will do her due-diligence to avoid future pain resulting from making choices out of ignorance. Its not that the Warrior doesn't make mistakes, but she is calm and self assured knowing her power comes from within and she has the power to create her own reality. A Warrior does not try to control every outcome but she will endeavor to control what she can and try to help and protect others from making bad choices. If the Warrior doesn't recognize that she cannot control or protect everyone, and allow others to learn their own lesson, she will end up becoming the Martyr, taking care of everyone else's needs and resenting it.

The Martyr will often give until she is completely depleated, it is very important to practice self care when being good stewards of our money. So that we have enough and are overflowing and then we can be good examples to others on how to live without the need to control others. So many women live with this Martyr energy, taking care of everyone else while neglecting themselves. While she means well, living a balanced life is the lesson for the Martyr. Otherwise, something is bound to snap and the Fool is unleashed.

Watch out, the Fool doesn't care anymore for the past, she lives in the present moment. Yes she knows how to make money, but as the saying goes " A fool and her money are soon parted". While a fool is the life of the party, loved for her generosity and ability to have a good time, and shopping sprees, the drama for her and those who live with her can be a roller coaster ride of highs and lows. Learning to temper that wild Fool with balance is the lesson for her.

The Creator/Artist often has a love/hate relationship with money. While she loves the freedom money can bring her, she often hates to do the mundane work necessary to bring about the money needed for a secure life. The Creator/Artists possesses the key to turn her creative abilities into money making endeavors when she finally changes her beliefs that money isn't spiritual. When she balances her spiritual and material lives, she will benefit from her amazing creative abilities to create money too.

The Tyrant, has finally learned to amass a huge fortune, only to fear losing it, so she becomes secretive and controlling in her attempt to keep what she has. Unfortunately, she will often get what she fears and the very act of protecting her wealth is what leads her to making bad decisions, fearing risk and living a life of lack in spite of all the abundance she can enjoy, if only she could learn to trust the Magician in her.

The Magician is what we all strive for, conscious and balanced, the Magician's self worth is not tied to her net worth. She understands that money flows and the cycle of money is similar to breathing, what comes in, will eventually go out, but it will come back again. Staying in peace and spiritual awareness of this law is the Magician's gift. Knowing that at different times, different energies will play out, knowing when its appropriate to temper our Fool energy with a little Warrior keeps us in balance, she will never want to completely lose her Innocence, but keeping her eyes open so she can make sound decisions for herself and her family. Not all decisions will turn out well, but rather let the Victim take over, she picks herself up, dusts herself off, and learns the lessons to make better and better choices, always trusting her instincts and knowing her power source is within, fear does not paralyze her as she continues to moves into her Warrior Magician.

Awareness of which Money Types play out in your life is the first step toward a healthy
relationship with your money. Alecia Caine holds Grow Your Money Chi Support Groups at A Place of Peace Thursday nights at 6:30.

Tuesday, January 06, 2009

Be Do Have

Are you exhausted from Doing, Doing, Doing in order to Have more Stuff, when all you really want is to BE Happy?

We live in a “doing” society where our self worth and our identity are so closely tied to what we Do, what we accomplish, rather than Who we ARE as Human Beings. We’re so busy trying to out “Do” each other we miss the whole point.

We all want happiness and we’re taught in our Western world that we’ll be happy only when and after our desires are met. We’ll finally get to be happy once we get the guy, or girl, the family, the car, the degree, the house, the luxuries, the money, the stuff, the accolades. In order to get all those things, we are taught we must work really hard. As we work hard and achieve each thing on our list, we get all stressed out and begin adding more things. Just this one more thing and then I’ll finally get to be happy, we claim.

It doesn’t work that way folks! Achieving happiness, when approached from a doing and having model only ensures that the source of our happiness remains outside ourselves, always just beyond our reach. We get stuck on this never ending treadmill, moving faster and faster but not getting anywhere, not being in the moment to cherish the presence of our lives.

Stop a second and try this: take a deep breath, feel the air travel into all corners of your lungs, let it expand through your abdomen and your lower back. Take a second to feel this moment while you gently hold your breath, feel this space. Ok, you can exhale now. If you felt a moment of peace and tranquility, guess what? This is who you truly are. This is the state of happiness you are seeking. Its right there all along just beneath the surface but because of all the activity you create, you miss the simplicity of it all.

Here is an exercise to help you approach happiness from a "being" point of view:

Take a sheet of paper and draw a line right down the middle.
Label the left side: What Is Working and make a list of all that is working in your life right. NOW, brainstorm all the good things you are grateful for. Feel grateful as you write – the reliable car, the kids getting their homework in on time, a clean bill of health etc.

Then label right side: Things That Could be Better and write what you want to change or create, such as increase your income 50%. You can choose things from the first column if its working and you want it to work even better like reduced blood pressure or peace at home.

Now look over your list and choose just one thing to focus your energy on. At the bottom of the list write the words: I am Being ______________. Fill in the blank with a state of beingness that would have the attributes of what you want to create. Be aware not to choose a doing word, such as "I am being a better parent", that implies you aren’t one now and you have to Do something to become one.

As you focus on being who you want to be, you will take actions natural for a person in that state of beingness. Those actions, when done deliberately with care and attention will bring about the outcomes you desire. The actions will take less effort as they flow from your state of beingness. There is joy in doing the actions without stress and then all the things you want will manifest to you with the same joy. For example. Say "I am Being Joyful" or "I am Being Happy". Close your eyes and speak this to yourself. Feel the feeling of truly being in this state of Joy and Happiness, breathe it into your lungs and all your body. Begin each day with this mantra and focus on it throughout the day. You will notice yourself naturally doing things that create more happiness and joy. And when you do things that make you happy because you are happy, you will begin to manifest the things in your life you desire.

This is the simple key to happiness. It's that simple but it does take practice. Practice being happy. It’s a lifelong art.

Monday, January 05, 2009

What's New for 2009

Alecia Caine is leading Money Chi™ circles, roundtables, workshops and individual coaching sessions at A Place of Peace, 896 Main Street, Ventura. To make an appointment or to sign up for any event, please call 805-218-1277.

Here is a sampling of what will be offered in 2009:

Know Your Money Type
Monday, January 12 and Monday, March 2 7-8 pm
Donations Appreciated

Know Your Money Type is an introductory course to identify our relationship with money in our lives. Our patterns and behaviors are what dictate our choices so we must seek to understand them or risk being unconsciously ruled by them.

Grow Your Money Chi™ Workshop
8 Thursday evenings January 29-March 19 6:30 – 9:00 pm
$400 per person, $600 per couple

If you are ready to create the highest purpose for money in your life this workshop will connect you to the spiritual, creative and practical rules of money by combining sound financial literacy skills with the laws of attraction. So many of us don't understand the purpose of money: how to get it, how to use it, how to keep it and how to grow it while aligning with our highest values. Its not our fault... no one ever taught us.

Money Chi™ Circles
4 Friday evenings January 30 – February 13 6:30 – 8:30 pm
Small intimate group setting
$175 per person

By shedding some light on our subconscious patterns around money, we have the power to change our beliefs and support each other through growth and right actions toward a more positive relationship with money and positive cash flow. Lets explore our relationship with money in a safe, non-threatening environment and heal our money wounds.

Money Chi™ Roundtables
2nd Saturdays beginning January 31 9:30 – 11:30 am.
Small intimate group setting
$50 per person, or Coaching package includes 2 hours a month of individual coaching for $250.

Become a member of a small master mind group of visionary, conscious business owners who come together to share triumphs, challenges, breakthroughs, receive education and set goals to move your businesses forward.

Money Chi™ Coaching
By appointment call 805-218-1277
Sliding scale

Money Chi™ coaching works with people and companies around their relationship with money to examine their patterns, behaviors, attitudes and beliefs around money, and gain clarity how these have manifested in their lives. We help people identify their money type, and to see how their past experiences with money have impacted the forming of their current money patterns. The intention of Money Chi™ Coaching is to help transform the individual and collective consciousness around money through education, awareness, and empowerment and to align our highest values with our actions to create lasting prosperity.

Other Services Available:
Business Planning
Cash Flow Management
Quickbooks setup and training
Business Consulting

For more information, please call 805-218-1277 or visit our website at www.moneychi.com.

Money Chi™ Certification for therapists and financial professionals is also available.

Friday, December 26, 2008

New Money

So much of our understanding of money is rooted in language of lack and scarcity, but it doesn't have to be that way, after all, we created money as a tool, but we let it control us. When we don't question our beliefs around money and ask where our beliefs come from, we assume our beliefs are actually truth. This creates a life sentence about money that is passed down to us from generation to generation who never asked why but, just kept on doing it the same way it was always done. We don't have to continue doing it the same way it was always done, anymore.

So much of our daily lives revolves around money. Its intertwined in how we live, where we live, what we eat, what we wear, just about everything has a financial component to it. How you feel about your interaction with money during your day will color your emotions all day, if you feel fearful around money, you will feel fearful all day, if you feel loving and empowered around money, you will create this feeling and it will multiply in your life and in the world. When we put our intentions behind our dealings with money, we infuse it with our beliefs and it will go out into the world to create a multitude of good.

Lets recreate money as an instrument to express our highest self, our soul's purpose. Lets use money to connect our heart with our daily actions. By raising our consciousness around our spending, earning, and investing choices, we raise the vibration of money.

Begin where you are, in small ways, put your money where your values are. Appreciate what you have no matter how little you think it is and you will attract more of it because what you appreciate appreciates.