Wednesday, October 08, 2014

The Money Stories We Hold Onto

Working with a money coach will help you release your old stories around money, reframe them and help you define the life you desire.   I am releasing some of my own issues around money which  helps me grow even deeper as a money mentor.  

Yesterday, as I was whipping up a batch of chocolate truffles, my go to activity when feeling a little down,  I noticed the sensations of anger, tightness coming from my throat and chest.   It was the victim archetype that was trying to find expression.  The anger was around some decisions I made back in 2007 to refinance my home which I eventually lost during the recession and I'm still recovering emotionally from this event.  

Family has always been a huge influence in my life and much of the advice I receive from family members has been centered around fear and lack and control.   In 2007, I  made a decision to refinance my home based on my father's fear that interest rates would rise out of control and his urging me to refinance.  I didn't make this decision based on my own research, my own ideas, needs and wants.  It was a decision I made blindly and this decision was one of the contributing factors that eventually led to me losing my home.   I could have easily gone down the path to blame, regret and hopelessness but I am working with my coach to bring more awareness and consciousness into my reactions so I stopped to journal about my feelings.

I can't change the decisions I made in the past and playing out the victim role doesn't serve me now and in the future I want to create.  To transcend and grow through this experience, I need to practice acceptance, awareness and forgiveness.

Accepting the past, the decisions I made and the consequences of those decision.   I cannot change the facts no matter how much I complain, blame and wish things were different.  It is what it is.

Awareness that I must make decisions for myself.  I can hear what others have to say, no matter how convincing they may sound, its still up to me to gather information, know my needs and wants and make the best decision for myself.

Forgiveness toward my father, he is who he is, sometimes a controlling, generous Tyrant archetypes who reacts to fear.  Dad doesn't really know what is best for me, only I do.

Holding anger and resentment only drives a wedge into the important relationships in our lives and diminishes the love.  By working through this with my coach, I am seeing how the Victim archetype keeps me tied to my past and keeps me from moving forward to claim the life I desire.

What about you? What money stories are holding you back from living the life you desire?  Please share your story below and if you want to explore if money coaching is right for you, send me an email for a free 30 minute consultation.